Sep 14, 2020
No matter how uncertain your
year or your life has become, resilience is one thing we can all be
certain of no matter our circumstances. My guest today is living
proof of that fact. Known as the “Queen of Resilience,” Stacey
Copas has created a framework of resilience based on the life
experience of overcoming the adversity of becoming quadriplegic at
12 years old. I am thrilled that she has joined me today and I know
you are going to come away from our conversation ready to take on
the world. We discuss simple ways to develop greater resilience,
how resilience can change the story of your life for the better,
and the one popular piece of advice about developing gratitude that
drives her crazy (and what she does instead).
Today we discuss —
Are we born resilient?
- Resilience is a continuum that shifts based on
our life experiences and the work we put into developing
- Resiliency requires our effort every single
- Rituals for resilience will increase our
feeling of control and certainty.
journaling provides the opportunity to rewrite experiences. Start
with the prompt “Today I had the opportunity to.”
- Stacey’s experience with the 2014 Australian
Athletics Championship taught her that she could decide how she
would feel about the embarrassing, challenging, and defining
moments in her life.
How can we increase our resilience?
on what you want to have or to gain rather than what you might
every experience you have as an opportunity.
mindful of sarcasm — it is a dangerous coping
grateful for the experiences you are having as you are having
- Identify what you need to learn in each moment
and how it can improve both your life and the lives of
clear about what you want and conscious of how you are presenting
it to the world.
Three resilience questions to ask yourself
did I have the opportunity to do today?
is the lesson I will learn from this experience?
can this experience help others?
Practices to help you develop gratitude
gratitude journal may not be the most effective way to develop
out Stacey’s mantra to help increase your daily
- Identify the opportunities that you’ve been
given and stay true to them to increase your credibility to
your gratitude practices non-negotiable — and always keep that
commitment to yourself.
Resilience wisdom from Stacey
can choose if your life is going to be viewed as a comedy or a
yes to good things and then figure out the details
- Regret things you did, not the things you
the first step and trust that the path will appear before
willing to collect experiences — even if they scare
Stacey’s book recommendation
The Mastery of
Love, by Don Miguel
Stacey’s song choices are
“I Won’t Back Down,” by Tom Petty
and “Roll With It,” by Oasis
Advocate to Win
The Elegant Warrior Playlist on
Free One-Hour Consult
Advocate for Yourself 10-Week
Subscribe to Weekly
How To Be Resilient: The
Blueprint For Getting Results When Things Don’t Go To
by Stacey Copas
Brought to You By: