Jul 20, 2020
Are you constantly seeking the
validation of others to define your self-worth? What evidence is
already present in your life that you can use to help you advocate
for the things you want to ask for? In today’s episode, we are
talking about the evidence that is all around you, from your
actions in your work to your relationships. Every one of your accomplishments is a piece of
evidence in support of your worth and value, and you can use that
evidence to find the internal motivation you need to get what you
deserve. I’m joined by Ani Anderson, the founder of Motivation
Beyond Measure, who uses evidence in her work to help her clients
understand how feelings and sensations are evidence of thoughts. We
talk about the importance of loosening your grip on control, how
you can tap into your internal motivation, and the value of
understanding your sensations as well as your emotions.
Today we discuss —
Loosening your grip on control
for win-win solutions rather than insisting that your way is the
only right way.
- Recognize that you don’t have as much control
as you think you do.
motivation of others is never truly in your control.
- Harnessing the larger energy that works within
us brings greater success and safety.
Tapping into internal motivation
- Figure out who you are and who other people are
by taking genuine time and asking sincere questions.
- Everyone has the same set of motivational
drivers, but which ones we utilize makes all the difference between
- Motivational drivers include clusters of
growth, achievement, and relationship priorities.
- Drivers can change over time with our
self-concept and expectations.
compatibility of couples and other relationships doesn’t depend on
having similar drivers, but it can help you understand others
Sensation-based motivational coaching
- Understanding how you are feeling, from a
sensory aspect is just as important as understanding how you’re
- Emotions are a thought and a sensation, and
when both are addressed we are able to make change and find
- Effective change requires addressing both
thinking and feeling.
- Becoming more aware of your sensations is the
first step to change, and you can get started by asking yourself
“Where in my body am I feeling something?” and “What does it feel
- Resistance is a sensation in the body that
keeps us from reaching our true potential.
Ani’s book recommendation
The Four Agreements: A
Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz
Ani’s song choice is
“Something in the Way She Moves,” by James
Advocate to Win
The Elegant Warrior Playlist on
Motivation Beyond Measure
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