Aug 14, 2023
Today’s guest is Cait Donovan. Cait Donovan is a Keynote speaker, one of New York City's leading burnout experts, host of “Fried – The Burnout Podcast,” author of the book "The Bouncebackability Factor", and an acupuncturist with a master's degree in Chinese medicine.
This was a great conversation about burnout, resentment, and boundaries. We discussed:
- Feeling not good enough.
2:00
- The biggest component of burnout is feelings of not being enough.
- What does burnout mean to you?
4:18
- Burnout is when the pilot light in the body goes too low and there is not enough energy to sustain normal functioning, rejuvenation, etc.
- The feeling of not being enough is part of burnout, and being too much is also part of it.
- The difference between burnout and stress.
9:21
- Stress and burnout are a continuum. Burnout is the far end of chronic unmitigated stress, while stress is healthy and good when it is not chronic.
- Resentment is the number one tool for keeping yourself out of burnout. It is one of the main tools that she teaches people.
- More on resentment
- If you pay close attention to resentments objectively, you will notice that each and every zone of your life where your boundaries are being crossed.
- Boundaries make you more generous and more
forgiving.
17:00
- When boundaries are in place, the places that you enjoy being generous are available to you and you can use them.
- What does it mean to honor your calendar?
19:03
- The importance of honoring appointments and paying yourself back
- What resentment feels like to Cait
- How to set boundaries when you feel
resentment.
20:48
- When she feels resentful, it is because she is over giving and feeling like she is doing the same thing.
- When there is a mismatch in a relationship and resentment is building up, ask yourself a few questions to sort through what is really going on.
- For some of us and even relationships, we bounce before sending a boundary because we are afraid of setting a boundary.
- How to avoid burnout?
26:04
- Finding the balance between bringing resources in and only releasing the resources that are available.
- If one does not learn in one area of their life, they can leave whatever relationship or job they want and take it with them to another place.
- What is the first step to identifying your
resentments?
28:26
- Identifying resentments is one of the first steps when people come to work with you, because they are the signposts.
Here’s a link to Cait’s mini-course on resentments!
https://www.caitdonovan.com/store
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